What if I told you that the reason you can’t lose weight and maintain a healthy diet and lifestyle had nothing to do with what you’re eating. What if I told you that the key to achieving and maintaining a healthy weight lies purely in what you’re thinking and feeling?
And this is not a new concept by any stretch but most people just don’t know how to change their mindset and stay stuck where they are. It’s why only 1.5% of people that start a diet actually manage to keep the weight off. That 1.5% of people who do actually succeed in keeping their weight off and who make it look effortless have usually had a shift in mindset and they probably weren’t even aware of it.
If you want to lose weight and lead a healthier life without the need for willpower and without having to feel like it’s a constant battle then stop looking at what you are eating and start looking at why you are eating it.
I dieted for over 15 years from the age of 18, although if I’m honest my poor relationship with food probably started even earlier than that. I tried so many different variations of diet from counting calories to food combining (that was a right pain in the derriere) and most times, yes, I lost some weight but I ALWAYS ended up back at square one. And I always blamed myself for not making it work. I’d feel like crap, have a couple of months of stuffing my face, make myself feel even shittier about myself and then gear up to start the whole process again convincing myself that this time it will be different. But it never was.
It’s been over 2 years now since I stopped dieting and lost the excess weight without having to really think much about it. I’ve stayed the same weight ever since, give or take a couple of pounds and food no longer rules my life. I enjoy my food but I don’t think about it 24/7.
So what changed? I certainly didn’t stumble across an amazing new diet plan or exercise regime. What changed was my mindset, my thoughts and the way I felt about myself. I actually for the first time in my life commited to making changes in my life.
You see, if we continue to do and think the same things we continue to get the same outcomes. Einstein said that the definition of insanity was doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.
So how can we start and shift our mindset?
Stop focusing on what NOT to eat and focus on what you need to nourish your body. The food we eat creates the very cells of our body. Instead of spending yout time hating your body start to see it as something to love and care for and focus on feeding it nourishment. So what if you have a bar of chocolate or a piece of cake, if you have taken the time to also put in the good stuff trust me when I say your body will begin to thank you for it.
Be kinder to yourself. The way that we speak to ourselves can often be so cruel. When you look in the mirror, rather than see the things that you don’t like start and focus on what you do like. Look in the mirror and focus on what a gorgeous smile you have or your beautiful eyes. Actually tell yourself ‘I’m beautiful’ when you look in the mirror. Will you feel daft? YES!! But who cares if it works eh? Marissa Peer suggests writing on our mirror the words “I am enough” to remind us everyday. I’ve done it myself and it does work!
Schedule time for self care. Self care is trending right now but how many of us actually make it a high priority? It’s not so much about what you do but about giving yourself space to think, to go inside and to see what’s going on for you. It’s about reconnecting and drowning out the external noise, even if it’s just for 10min each day. Self care can be long bubble baths or time spent at a spa but it can also be taking a walk, lying on the grass on a sunny day or a quiet afternoon baking. It’s doing something we enjoy slowly and mindfully without distraction. If you struggle with this try actually scheduling it in your diary so that if people try and make arrangements with you, you won’t be telling porkies when you say you already have plans!
And finally ‘let that shit go’! Whatever it is you’re still hanging onto from the past it’s time to stop, forgive yourself and move on. We all make mistakes because we are all imperfect. If needs be find a professional to help you work through it….INVEST in yourself! Living in the past and going over and over old emotions serves nobody.